What is “Vibing”? What is “Aura”?
Every NT knows the answer to this but can’t explain it to save their lives so I will try.
Simple version
Vibe = The emotion or feeling you get from someone or something
Aura = How ‘cool’ a person is.
Negative Aura = cringe
Aura Farming = Showing off
Counterfeit Aura = Masking
Full Version
Vibes are the emotional effect you have on other people through your demeanour, energy, appearance, speaking style and the emotional energy you project by leaking your feelings through your body movements and voice.
Keanu Reeves, as himself, can be said to have a ‘Zen’ Vibe.
Graham Norton can be said to have a ‘comedically daft’ vibe.
MrBeast can be said to have a ‘Malignant Psycho’ vibe. But that’s why we love him. Very difficult to pull off. Do not attempt. You’re not him.
Vibing is the process where two people’s Vibes interact in a complimentary and enjoyable way.
Aura is not your Vibe, it’s more powerful and important.
Aura is how your presence creates an emotional distortion field. It’s how people remember you. It’s the emotional footprint you leave on them. It’s your Identity from a 3rd person perspective.
- Vibe contributes to the Aura, but Aura is also built upon reputation, history, known or unknown actions, facts, rumours, etc
- A persistent, long-term, or strong Vibe can be enough to forge an Aura by itself.
- There are as many possible Aura Types as there are possible combinations and ratios of human emotions (infinite)
- Many powerful Auras are built on nothing at all and people just see what they want to see.
- The reason first impressions matter so much is you have an opportunity to craft a fresh Aura based on your situational Vibe
Auras are situational, subjective and context dependent
What might be cool in group/place A might be cringe in group/place B. This is why everyone has a ‘work persona’
Two people can be in the same room and experience a different aura from a third person that enters, based on their personal biases, preferences and suggestibility to person 3’s BS.
Where can I get Aura?
Aura can be earned through displays of integrity, strength, willpower, generosity, fairness and loyalty.
It can be conjured by manufacturing mystery around yourself or showing receipts of success
It can be perpetuated by how people speak about you when you’re not there.
It can be counterfeited by masking, fronting and lying about who you are.
Aura Farming is the process of doing something or acting in such a way that adds to your Aura. It can be legitimate, but the phrase ‘Aura Farming’ usually infers self-centred egotistical intent. They used to call this process “flexing” aka “showing off”.
Aura is most effectively farmed by not trying to farm Aura. The more nonchalant and unconcerned with image someone seems, the more credible the Aura.
The best way to Farm high-quality Aura is to selectively show the good parts of the Real You
How to spot Counterfeit Aura
There is a serious epidemic of counterfeit Aura globally.
Luckily most counterfeiters are easily spotted because they will try too hard and usually choose a superficial types of Aura to fake like Competence, Intelligence, Desirablility, Success, or Charm.
They rarely have the receipts, but you don’t need to check them to know because:
Counterfeiters can be spotted by trying too hard to Aura Farm, because Genuine Aura is usually subtle and unspoken.
The most valuable and difficult to earn Auras are Integrity and Loyalty. These traits buy you the world, opening doors by putting you on the radar of other genuine people.
Beware
A socially intelligent Aura counterfeiter will try to fake these. If they display the vibes of integrity and loyalty in a weird, off-balanced, off-topic, or oddly obvious way it is a red flag that they feel the need to deceive you for some reason.
These are con artists, salespeople, and predators. I was an integrity counterfeiter in my first sales job (common beginner’s mistake) until I decided to become more and actually earn the Aura for real.
I met others with the same counterfeit integrity energy and I knew it was fake, but I assumed they had some legitimate reason like me. They were later revealed to be rapists, coke-heads in huge debt, and sadistic narcissists. I never knew at the time, but my masking strategy was adjacent to psychos.
Just because my reasons for Aura Counterfeit were understandable and almost excusable does not mean you should leave it to chance. At the very best you’re speaking to a nervous person trying to represent a brand well. But you could also end up taken adavantage of and traumatised.
Why leave it to chance?
It’s a sign of serious trouble if you spot fake integrity. Fucking Run.