What is “Vibe and Aura”?
Every NT knows the answer to this but can’t explain it to save their life so I will try.
Simple version:
Vibe has 2 meanings:
1. An externalised, comparative emotion or gut feeling you project onto something/someone.
2. The internal emotion or gut feeling you experience.
The term is attached to its source, like an adjective. If someone is dependable and this makes you relaxed, they have a solid vibe and you have a chill vibe, not the other way around.
Aura = How cool a person is.
Negative Aura = cringe
Aura Farming = Showing off
Counterfeit Aura = Masking
It’s giving XYZ = XYZ is the vibe I’m getting.
Vibing = chill and relaxed.
Full Version:
Vibes are the emotional effect you have on other people through your demeanour, energy, appearance, speaking style and the emotional energy you project by leaking your feelings through your body movements and voice.
- Keanu Reeves, as himself, can be said to have a ‘Zen’ vibe.
- Graham Norton can be said to have a ‘Zesty’ vibe.
- MrBeast can be said to have a ‘Malignant Psycho’ vibe. But that’s why we love him. Very difficult to pull off. Do not attempt. You’re not him.
Vibing can also mean when two people interact in a complimentary and enjoyable way.
Aura is not your Vibe, it’s more powerful and important.
Aura is how your presence creates an emotional distortion field. It’s how people remember you. It’s the emotional footprint you leave on them. It’s your Identity from a 3rd person perspective.
- Vibe contributes to the Aura, but Aura is also built upon reputation, history, known or unknown actions, facts, rumours, appearance etc
- A strong Vibe can be enough to forge an Aura by itself.
- There are as many possible Aura Types as there are possible combinations and ratios of human emotions (infinite)
- Many powerful Auras are built on nothing at all and people just see what they want to see.
- The reason first impressions matter so much is you have an opportunity to craft a fresh Aura based on your situational Vibe
Aura is situational, subjective and context dependent
What might be cool in place A can be cringe in place B. This is why everyone has a ‘work persona’ ‘friend persona’ and ‘family persona’.
Two people can be in the same room and experience a different aura from a third person that enters, based on their personal biases, preferences, mood and suggestibility to this persons BS.
The bottoms-up-thinking, autistically logical conclusion here is to have a collection of personalities and values for every situation, but that would be the opposite of the truth.
That would be the antithesis of true Aura.
And bad for your health.
Where can I get Aura?
Aura can be earned through displays of integrity, strength, willpower, charisma, bravery, generosity, and loyalty.
It can be conjured by manufacturing mystery around yourself or showing receipts of success
It can be perpetuated by how people speak about you when you’re not there.
It can be counterfeited by masking, fronting and lying about who you are.
It can be stolen by lies, rumours, gossip, and your own mistakes or neediness.
Aura Farming is the process of doing something or acting in such a way that adds to your Aura. It can be legitimate, but the phrase ‘Aura Farming’ usually infers self-centred egotistical intent. They used to call this process “flexing”.
In english this means Showing Off.
Aura is most effectively farmed by not seeming to be trying to farm Aura. The more nonchalant and unconcerned with image someone seems, the more credible the Aura.
The Italians understand this concept because they have a word for it that doesn’t translate into English: Sprezzatura.
The best way to Farm high-quality Aura is to selectively show the good parts of the Real You, like you’re not trying to show it.
Negative Aura/Aura Loss
You can lose Aura by:
- Being disgraced & humiliated.
- Being too concerned with other’s opinions of you.
- Trying too hard to save face or be liked.
- Writing about Aura on the internet.
Have you ever been insulted, defended yourself desperately, and it only made you look worse?
This is points 1, 2, and 3 stacking on top of each other to create an Aura-killing vortex.
Trapping people in this vortex while appearing innocent is the secret of Aura Theft. I personally prefer the term High-Class Bullying, so I can feel better about being so guilty of it.
Insults are invitations to show how strong or fragile you are. By exposing the need to be liked, whether it’s through rage, explaination, or tears, you lose Aura.
Bonus points if the rage results in saying something that offends the neutral people present. Cooked.
By showing strength and responding from a place that shows you don’t give a single fuck, whether it’s appropriate retaliation or leaving, saves or increases Aura.
It’s not what you do, but how you do it. How you do it shows what you are.
It’s very difficult to fake this and worth achieving the “above being mad” state of mind for real. Once you achieve it, you can spot who’s real and fake very easily.
I sometimes slip out of this mentality into my old ways.
Autistic people get hit much harder with the pressure to be performative, so we are more susceptible to the trap of nice guy syndrome, the root cause of all Aura loss, which is really just toxic vanity at it’s core.
Watch out for that, it can creep back if you let it.
How to spot Counterfeit Aura
There is a serious epidemic of counterfeit Aura globally.
Luckily most counterfeiters are easily spotted because they will try too hard and usually choose a superficial types of Aura to fake like Competence, Intelligence, Desirablility, Success, or Charm.
They rarely have the receipts, but you don’t need to check them to know because:
Counterfeiters can be spotted by trying too hard to Aura Farm. Genuine Aura is usually subtle or unspoken.
The most underrated, valuable and difficult to earn Aura comes from Integrity and Loyalty. These traits buy you the world, opening doors by putting you on the radar of other genuine, real people.
Integrity means sticking to your values when it’s extremely difficult and keeping your word.
Of course, different underlying values result in different versions of integrity. One man’s integrity is another man’s corruption.
But Integrity is what people mean when they call someone a Real One.
Beware
A socially intelligent Aura counterfeiter will try to fake these. If they display the vibes of integrity and loyalty in a weird, off-balanced, off-topic, or oddly obvious way it is a red flag that they feel the need to deceive you for some reason.
These are con artists, salespeople, and predators. I was an integrity counterfeiter in my first sales job (common beginner’s mistake) until I decided to become more and actually earn the Aura for real.
I met others with the same counterfeit integrity energy and I knew it was fake, but I assumed they had some legitimate reason like me. They were later revealed to be rapists, coke-heads in huge debt, and sadistic narcissists. I never knew at the time, but my masking strategy was adjacent to psychos.
Just because my reasons for Aura Counterfeit were understandable and almost excusable does not mean you should leave it to chance. At the very best you’re speaking to a nervous person trying to represent themself well. But you could also end up taken advantage of and traumatised.
Why leave it to chance?
It’s a sign of serious trouble if you spot fake integrity.