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Stop blaming yourself for a system designed to use you up. You have been passed over, managed out, quietly sidelined, and handed feedback that functionally means “we’d prefer a different species.”   Through all of it, you kept recalibrating, kept asking what was wrong with you. Nothing is wrong with you. The economics are wrong. The system was not built with your brain in mind, and it has been profiting from that gap ever since. This Substack is reader-supported. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Table of Contents 1. The System Cheats 2. Masking Costs 3. Paper Lies 4. You Always Stay 5. Build Your Own The System Cheats Your manager took credit for your work, rated you poorly for producing it, and got promoted. You blamed yourself. That’s the trap. Corporate environments reward social fluency above output. A 2021 study in Autism in Adulthood found autistic employees outperformed neurotypical peers on objective task measures while ...

There is a particular flavour of work story that autistic and ADHD people tell each other. It goes like this: You joined a company. You were brilliant. You fixed things. You improved systems nobody asked you to improve because you couldn’t stand watching them be broken. You stayed late. You said what nobody else would say in the meeting. You delivered. And then someone else got promoted. Or your ideas got rebranded as theirs. Or you burned out so badly you had to start over completely. Again. If this is your story, I want you to understand something important: You were not unlucky. You were targeted. Not consciously, in most cases. But targeted all the same. The office culture corporate machine is not designed to reward the most competent person. It rewards the person who navigates the unwritten social game with the least friction. And for us, that game was built without our brain in mind. That’s not an excuse. That’s the terrain. Know it or keep losing to it. The Good Dog Problem Here...

The word yearn annoys me. It phonetically sounds like pussy shit. I managed to dodge learning about yearning because I don’t come across it very often in my dealings with real ones. The literary app leaks it to me. Lo and behold. It is pussy shit. Yearning is valuing what you desperately want instead of what you immediately control , which reduces what you control, making it less likely to get what you want. This Newsletter is reader-supported. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. It’s a strong feeling of deep desire or longing, often for something that is terminally over and is never going to happen. It often reflects a magical wish for something that one simply cannot have without a work ethic they don’t possess, time they don’t possess, or it comes with dire consequences for themselves and others. The biggest yearn is the thing or person who got away. Some yearn for the toxic ex while raising a family. Some yearn for the big break ...

  I’m naturally very high in Dark Triad traits. I’m self-centred, always filtering a plan through “how does it affect me though”. I’m a career salesperson and lifelong social chameleon, and I have selective empathy to protect myself because when it’s activated, it’s ACTIVATED. So I leave my empathy off most of the time. What grinds my gears is seeing these traits I work against myself to overcome be paraded as the silver bullet that will save young men from themselves. I work against this side of me and look for the right amount of empathy to connect without overloading my circuits and bleeding my heart all over the place.  Because that’s what makes life human, real and fun. Throwing that away on purpose is retarded. I also contend with Persistant Demand Avoidance to make this happen. But the powerful combo of Dark Triad, PDA, a Sales Career, years in the Redpill space from a young age, and a bunch of other factors kept me in this dark hole cosplaying as a psycho for years, th...

The most dangerous lie they tell the neurodivergent community is that the world is a meritocracy. They tell us: “Work hard, be yourself, and the rest will follow.” But for those of us on the spectrum, the Patient Zeros of the corpo world trying to navigate a map built for the neurotypical, we know the truth. The world isn’t a meritocracy; it’s a  Vibe Economy . In the Vibe Economy, a person’s value isn’t determined by their performance, politeness, adherence to rules, or output. It’s determined by “cultural fit,” the ability to mirror social cues, and willingness to  appear  hardworking, whilst more importantly  selling the fuck out and kissing ass  participating in the performative theatre of small talk.  For us, the Vibe Economy is a rigged market. Every time we try to “be ourselves” or “just network,” we are essentially trying to buy a high-priced asset with an overinflated neural currency rapidly devaluing in real time. Try buying a house with Zimbabwe ...