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Vibe and Aura Explained in Black-and-White

What is “Vibe" and "Aura”? Every NT knows the answer to this but can’t explain it to save their life so I will try. Simple version: Vibe has 2 meanings: 1. An externalised, comparative emotion or gut feeling you project onto something/someone. 2. The internal emotion or gut feeling you experience. The term is attached to its source, like an adjective. If someone is dependable and this makes you relaxed, they  have a solid vibe and you have a chill vibe, not the other way around. Aura  = How cool a person is. Negative Aura  = cringe Aura Farming  = Showing off Counterfeit Aura  = Masking It’s giving XYZ = XYZ is the vibe I’m getting. Vibing  = chill and relaxed. Full Version: Vibes  are the emotional effect you have on other people through your demeanour, energy, appearance, speaking style and the emotional energy you project by leaking your feelings through your body movements and voice. Keanu Reeves, as himself, can be said to have a ‘Zen’ vibe. Grah...

Destroy The No.1 Barrier to Autistic Dating

My brain has always wanted rules. That’s how it survives. If I can boil the chaos of people down to patterns and categories, maybe I won’t drown in it. But those rules turn into prisons. They teach me lies. One of the worst was that women are all the same. That if I could just crack the code once, I’d have the script forever. Black and white thinking did that to me. Autism did that to me. I walked into dating like it was a puzzle I could solve if I stared hard enough. But every time a woman didn’t fit the archetype in my head, I felt betrayed. I thought there was something wrong with her, or worse… something even more wrong with me. The mindset killed my shot at connection before it could begin. It stripped her individuality staring me in the face. It made me blind to the real her(s). Guess what happens when you operate with inaccurate data… The scripts failed me and I crashed, overthought things, shut down… I started resenting the world for not bending to my rules. I’ve sabotaged conn...

I “Integrated My Dark” Here’s What Happened PART 1

  Integrating the darkness was a pop psychology trend a decade ago, pushed by Psychologist Jordan Peterson, and former Navy Seals David Goggins and Jocko Willink. These were my chosen role models at the time, in a world that was stripping away the value of masculine strength, just as I was at the age where I was developing mine. When they said:  “Harness the dark matter in the calluses on your soul” “Use Emotion when Logic fails. Use Logic when Emotion Fails”  “Now that I know how dark it can get, I truly appreciate the light” and  “ A good man is not a harmless man. A good man is a dangerous man who chooses to do no harm.” My Autistic mind took it beyond face value and took it all the way to my unconscious core values. ‘Okay then, let’s go.’ was my response. In it’s deeper levels, what it entails is embracing the dark, corrupted, toxic, hateful, spiteful, greedy, jealous, aggressive and otherwise “bad” parts of the normal human experience and finding “Good” ways of ...

My Autistic Persistent Demand Avoidance Case For Toxicity

If you try to take my freedom, I will do anything to keep it, even if it costs me safety, relationships, jobs, or stability. I’ve exchanged all of these once or twice for freedom at some point, and I’ve been ready to give my life. Freedom is non negotiable for me. Why? Is it Irish blood? I have rebel ancestors but I don’t believe in genetic memories. Was I born with a flaming 1776 American spirit of independence?  Unlikely. In a European country born to European parents with European values it s eems far fetched. Or is it Pathological Demand Avoidance, a theoretical profile within Autism which resists undue influence on principle? I don’t know. It’s just a theory not yet recognised in the DSM. One way or another, I don’t care why I’m allergic to bullshit, oppression, suppression and tyranny. I just am. Sovereignty and Freedom are so fragile and so valuable, they say the grass and the trees in free countries were fertilised with the blood of millions. I don’t mean to glorify war, I’...