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Principle Zero: ASD Is Not A Disorder

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“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” -widely attributed to Einstein This quote often gets tossed around to help people on the spectrum cope. Don’t let this quote fade away after a moment of feeling superficially vindicated, because believe it or not, this goes so much deeper than we realise. The Big ‘D’ In ASD Stands For Disorder In the years after owning up to my late diagnosis, after years of denial, accepting it, growing into it, learning what it means, and finally realising I’d prefer to be this way than being neurotypical, something hit me like a tonne of bricks… the fact that this gift is considered a disorder at all pisses me off.  Disorder? How does the word disorderly describe the most systematic, pattern-driven, hyper focussed, intellectually driven group of people on earth?  It doesn’t. Disorderly describes irrational, emotions-first, unpredictable people. Disorderl...

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What is ASDKings?

ASDKings is a passion project. A resource hub for the disempowered autistic men and women who wish to discover insight and become more. It’s also place to hear your experience echoed, so you know you are seen, heard, and not alone.

I write my raw stories, secret thoughts, unique perspectives and lessons learned the hard way in Articles.

Practical Knowledge I’ve collected, tested, and validated as repeatably functional in the fields of Career, Social Mastery, Dating, and Mental Strength are collected in Resources & Guides.

Anything found to be non-factual or non-functioning is removed immediately.



About Me

I am a late-diagnosed Autistic man with ADHD. Before I knew the truth, I assumed I was “weird”. 

In my late teens, I set myself on the mission of becoming whole by mastering human interaction, charisma, and persuasion through extensive exposure therapy and testing socio-psychological concepts in the real world, both socially and professionally.

Knowingly doing this is considered to be masochistic heresy, but I didn't know who I was.


This was advanced, applied, unconscious autistic masking, not sociopathy.

A lot of information I studied was proven by trial to be nonsense, or only applicable to neurotypicals. But I held onto what actually works.

Almost a decade into my journey of trial and error, I achieved success in all areas, particularly in my sales career, but discovered something more valuable: I was unhappy.


The quest for “perfection” led me to mask so hard I was no longer able to tell who the real me was. I suffered a breakdown and severe burnout, which led me to embrace a path towards completion by accepting the truth I had been suppressing all these years: that I am in fact Autistic and it’s time to be myself.

At first it felt like failure or admitting defeat, but I educated myself on Autism and realised that by leaning into my neurodivergent difference, I could harness it as an advantage to compete in the world in ways unimaginable before.


Armed with this new knowledge, a high-performance mask that I'm trying to let go of, and the correct perspective of working with my wiring instead of against it, I am finally at a place where I am truly playing to win.

My goal with ASDKings is to help you do this too without the suffering it cost me to achieve it. 

To help you find your hidden advantages.

To find the courage to Reject Limitation and Become More.


Where else to find me:

Reddit interacting with the community

Substack reposting my articles